Parenting can be a challenge in the best circumstances. Parenting children who have difficulty being responsible, resourceful, resilient, respectful, and activated as individuals and within relationships is even more challenging. There may be times when it doesn't seem like it will ever get easier, that there aren't any solutions that will truly help. We understand and will go the distance with you.
We know it can seem impossible to overcome the barriers to teaching children how to problem solve and make decisions that are beneficial for themselves and others. We understand that the constant pressures to keep up with others and be successful can be an overwhelming influence for kids. We know that they can easily access information and experiences that lead to dependency on substances and activities. We recognize that the desire and expectations endemic in American culture for a "quick fix" diminishes a child's willingness and ability to patiently wait or to accept no. We know what you are up against and can provide the support you need to be the strongest influence in your child's life.
What is Parent Training?
Parent Training, involves the process of learning, practicing and mastering the ability to more effectively parent your children. This occurs through first identifying and understanding the factors that contribute to undesirable behaviors and results. Secondly, we develop both proactive and responsive strategies to improve your connection with your children and also to guide them to learn the 5 SKILLS OF SELF-LEADERSHIP.
How do parents learn in these trainings?
Parents will learn how to assess the factors that influence the behaviors of each family member. They will be given practical tips to begin to implement change and will leave with a strategic plan to influence more productive outcomes in their children's behavior.
What exactly are the parents going to learn?
Parents will learn how to:
Recognize how their beliefs, fears, motives, needs, emotions and behaviors and those of their children influence the family dynamic
Recognize and respond productively to a child's beliefs, fears, motives, needs, emotions and behaviors
Critically think, problem solve and make more productive decisions
Develop the proper balance of parental authority and promotion of child independence
Develop a proactive and responsive discipline system to promote self-control in a child
Distinguish between a productive response and an unproductive reaction to a child's undesirable behaviors and how to choose the productive response more often
Identify and understand how a child utilizes manipulation to fulfill need and the optimal response to such behavior
Manage a child's aggressive, passive or passive-aggressive behaviors
Manage a child's incapability and unwillingness
Promote a home culture that includes more grace, mercy, forgiveness, peace, joy, freedom and harmony
Develop a system and culture within their home that leads to a productive family life
Identify and understand current parenting patterns while being given the opportunity to learn new, improved and effective parenting styles and skills.
Understand how the parenting they received may have negatively affected their ability to parent in an effective manner
Establish realistic goals and expectations for their children's behaviors
Better understand their child's behaviors and the reasoning behind each behavioral pattern
Develop a structured plan of action focused on learning proactive and interactive strategies
Develop and maintain the proper limits, consequences and rewards necessary to build your child's self-control and consequent self-esteem
Identify and understand the confusing, misunderstood and unseen factors that lead to disruptive behavioral patterns
Utilize both analysis of previous parent-child events and feedback and coaching during "live" events to help them identify, understand, practice and master their parenting skills
Understand the difference between fulfilling a child's needs versus disciplining their problematic wants
How is this accomplished?
Typically, parent coaching involves meeting once a week in the home or nearby community. The meetings are typically between one and two hours in duration. Consistent contact throughout the course is recommended and encouraged.
Regardless of the configuration of your family, we can help parents to learn, refine or master their skills within months - sometimes weeks!